Showing posts with label exploring love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label exploring love. Show all posts

Monday, October 1, 2012

Is he / she a good mate? Find Out on the First Date!

"I can spot a good man within the first 30 minutes of a first date." - Journey 
Women used to laugh at me when I would share this with them... that is until I went out on groups dates and shared my insights of each partner on their dates and explained what my observations had been that resulted in the assessment of whether they were mis-matched or not. I was dubbed the Sherlock Homes of Love because nothing went unnoticed. But what always surprised me was that afterwards, having had the truth put before them, men and women will put up with anything for the sake of "love".  Well, at least their perception or understanding of being in love. Well, since I'm no longer available to do truth-telling... below are insights into some red flags you might want to think about before moving on with your dates. They're from an article I came across which tells the truth quite accurately, with a few of my own additions of course. 

Moochers, Takers, Mama's Boys/Daddy's Girls and More - 6 Relationship Red Flags
     By The Lifescript Editorial Staff -Published September 12, 2008
 
You watch the relationship red flags waving at you, but gosh, he’s just so good-looking. So you dismiss them to see where the relationship will go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You'll end up hurt and resentful, even though you could have protected yourself. The following are six  warning signals of a doomed relationship. Plus: Are you over your ex?

Friday, February 11, 2011

What Brain Scans Teach Us About Intense Long-term Passionate Love

Published on February 3, 2011 by Adoree Durayappah-Harrison, MAPP in Thriving101

What's The Secret to Staying Madly in Love?

Is it even possible to feel madly in love with someone after five, ten, twenty years together?

Due to recent neurological research, we are a bit closer to answering these perplexing questions and demystifying the secrets behind achieving intense, lasting, romantic love.

A recent study published online in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, investigated, for the first time, which brain regions are associated with long-term romantic love.

Researchers compared the brain scans of long-term married individuals to the scans of individuals who have recently fallen in love. Surprisingly, the results revealed similar activity in specific brain regions for both long-term, intense romantic love and couples in early-stage romantic love. These particular brain regions could be the clue to why certain couples stay madly in love years, even decades, later

A group of researchers, led by Drs. Bianca Acevedo and Arthur Aron of the Department of Psychology at Stony Brook University, used functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI) to scan the brains of happily married individuals (10 women and 7 men) reporting intense romantic love for their partner after an average of 21 years of marriage.

The Characteristics of Intense Romantic Love

Intense romantic love typifies symptoms (common to being newly in love) including:
  • Craving for union
  • Focused attention
  • Increased energy with the partner
  • Motivation to do things that make the partner happy
  • Sexual attraction and thinking about the partner when apart

The objective of the study was to investigate how brain system activity in individuals in a long-term intense passionate love compared to the brain system activity of individuals newly in romantic love.